Nurture a Positive Attitude!
Has anyone ever told you that you just have a
"bad attitude"? Ever caught yourself feeling like "who
cares?" or "what about ME"? Maybe you've had days
where you feel like putting everyone on the planet in a rocket ship
and telling them to blast off.
People don't always act the way we want them
to. Thing don't always seem to be to our liking. Sometimes we just
don't feel we have anything to give, even a kind word.
So what can we do about this?
One thing we can do is take the time to tell
ourselves how great we are.
"What! When we're being jerks!?"
Especially when we're being jerks. When we are
mean to others it usually means that either our gas tank of
self-esteem is pretty low or.. that we are just run down and worn out
-- physically and/or emotionally.
Sometimes it is not obvious what is draining
us. Sometimes it's something recent (a big project at school or work,
a recent problem with a friend or parent). Other times it's something
we've been putting up with for a long time (abuse from peers or a
family member), or a way of doing things that has become a habit
(like saying "yes" to people when we need to say "no").
Whatever the case, it is important to stop --
take a time out -- and take positive inventory of ourselves. It's
time to remember what is good -- and good enough -- about us.
If our attitude remains low, or if we are
feeing guilty or embarrassed about it, it may help to compare
ourselves to the behavior of our animal friends when they are sick or
wounded. When an animal senses that it's energy and strength is
running extra low, it will often react "negatively" toward
others. The mother cat refuses to nurse her young. The faithful dog
bites the hand reaching to pet it. Desperate and overwhelmed, the
animal withdraws or lashes out to defend itself. This is called
Guess what? You are a human animal. And
human animals engage in survival behavior too!
If you seem to be stuck in survival behavior:
Listen to yourself -- to your
emotions, thoughts, body sensations.
Take care of and be kind to yourself!
Try to identify who or what
is upsetting or draining you.
Find someone safe to talk to.
(A professional counselor can be a great help.) Journaling can be a
great outlet as well.
Engage in your spiritual practice (prayer,
meditation, time in nature, inspirational reading, etc.)
Take action to resolve the
situation OR to remove yourself from it until you are calm enough or
rested enough that it can be resolved.
Consider that when we are calm, rested, our
problems will get resolved -- with a little patience, creativity, and
a willingness to try reframing the situation [looking at it from
Give yourself a mental pat on the back as you
do each of these!
these feelings of resentfulness or sadness or lack of energy have
been with you for quite a while (weeks, months...years?) it is
important to find someone who can support you through working it
through. Choose an experienced professional counselor who is willing
to listen AND to help you work things through.
If you're hesitant about asking for support,
consider this: you probably had
someone's "help" in coming to feel the way you do -- why
not have help getting over it?
A Positive Attitude